I feel that the world needs a little love. With the health scare of covid, the rising prices of food and the divisive politics we are reminded of the dark side of life. I hear people demanding more and giving less. When we are not okay it is hard to give love.
I learned about giving love when I got divorced. My divorce was over 30 years ago and was very painful. My world crashed and I had to rebuild it. Here’s some things I learned about giving love…
- Being polite is a starting point in any relationship. It is even more important with someone I love. I have treated those I love worse than I would treat a stranger.
- Talk gently. Yelling only escalates the anger. There are better ways to get my message across. Thank you for teaching me this, Steve.
- Sometimes I need to walk away and cool off to show my love. Time outs are for me. Sitting on the outside steps in the middle of winter will do it. My boys taught me this one.
- Take time to look at the situation from their point of view. Feel their suffering, their grief and their sadness. It is easy for me to put my needs in front of others. We all get scared, need to belong, and feel seen.
- Be sincere. Don’t do it because you think they will appreciate it. Do it for you.
- Be grateful and take time to express it to others.
- Be there in mind and body. Actions speak louder than words. Give the gift of time.
I challenge you to make an extra effort to give love this month and make it a better world.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
Mary Guldan-Lindstrom, CPA
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